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Thoughs on Spanking Bans
by Sandi
 
Sparked by Caifornia spanking legislation.

Perhaps Dan Collins is right when he says: "If spanking is outlawed, only criminals will ... spank."

And I agree pretty strongly with Naftali who writes...

I reacted when I first saw this issue brought up in the blog-sphere. Shortly afterwards, though not in connection with my reaction, I saw in the comments to blogs several defenses for such a ban amounting basically to the following argument: ‘Since I have never spanked my child, and since he or she is now a gainfully employed, law abiding adult, I know that the power to spank a child is not a necessary tool for child raising and that therefore it should be removed on the grounds that it is abusive to children.

But since the bill in question that first time around was a fringe offering, and as I felt that further attempts to ‘defend’ my right to employ what has throughout history been an acceptable tool for use in the raising of children serves to legitimize the claims of those who wish to deprive me of it, I chose not to respond to that argument nor to others equally specious.

This time around I will similarly not engage this wickedly harmful, power grab of an argument.

All I will say to the modern man, who sees a child not growing into an animal and winding up self supportive epitomizing parental ’success’, ” I will rebel before I allow you to condemn my children and the children of my people to modern man mediocrity through limiting my ability to educate.

That was what I was going to respond when I first read Dan’s post. Then I read his link.
Assemblywoman Sally Lieber, D-Mountain View, has re-introduced a bill designed to crack down on hitting a child under 3 in the face or head.

Now the limited aim of this bill–not “hitting a child under 3 in the face or head”–makes this issue more complicated and, for this very reason, more dangerous.

Though I have never hit my children, most of whom are under three, in the face or the head, nor can I conceive at this time of any circumstances under which I would find it wise to do so, nonetheless, I want no one but G-d to place categorical limitations on my power when it comes to the raising, protecting, and the sustaining of my children. ....

Of course now, some will crow about the child abuse ‘epidemic’. To them I will simply say that the epidemic that is the sorry modern state of ‘raising, protecting and sustaining one’s family’ is of far more concern to me than a child abuse epidemic that, frankly, I do not believe exists. And one might remind these noble do-gooders, as some have already, that some of the more severe behaviors spelled out in Lieber’s bill already are banned under state child-abuse laws.

But there is more. You see these know it all, do gooders get it:
“We want to build on the groundwork that was laid last year,” Lieber said. “Last year we started out with 95 to 100 percent of reaction being negative. Once people

found out what we were trying to do with the bill, that was reduced to 85 percent negative. So we want to continue to move the discussion along.

There is no telling where this issue (not this bill) will end, but I”m fairly certain as to where it’s headed. Beware, and never overestimate the common sense of modern

man.

A few years ago I observed a relatives son (about 3 yrs old) slap a young girl's face. His mom promptly walked over and slapped his face. Not hard enough to be painful, nor enough to leave a mark, but her son realized the humiliation of what he had done. That isn't a tactic I would use, but see it as effective if done without malice and gently, as in this case, and I see no problem with it.

Outlawing spanking, slapping or other parental discretions will not stop child abuse in the slightest. OTOH having the state looking over our shoulders as we raise children holds a lot of danger and abuse by those in authority that think raising children should be done only in a certain way. Their way.

Also @Dean's World by Naftali

Posted Monday April 7, 2008 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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Mt Horeb Wisconsin couple give love and hope...
by Sandi
 
To children from fractured homes.
Post Source: The Capital Times

We need a lot more people like Jennifer Kingslien and her husband Peter. They have cared for 50 kids since becoming foster parents, and not just the cream of the crop either. The Kingslien's have shown a different way to life to children, many from fractured homes with chemical dependent parents.

Dane County is chronically in need of foster parents, which the Kingsliens learned quickly. "By the way, we have two little boys, half-sibs," their social worker said, on the day the couple was licensed to help. The children, ages 2 and 4, were victims of neglect and possible abuse. They moved in, just 48 hours later, and eventually were adopted into the family.

"We had always been involved with kids," Jennifer says. "Our place would be the one where the kids would hang out."

The former high school teacher and office administrator, at age 41, inquired about foster parenting after reading the phrase "and the county takes custody of the children" in one too many newspaper court stories. ....

"We wanted to help fractured families," says Jennifer, who considers herself fortunate because "I'm doing what I love. I have a passion for working with children."

She welcomes "the opportunity to show them a different way of life," a contrast to the mistreatment that often results from their parents' chemical dependency issues.

"We tend to parent as we were parented," Jennifer says, but "I've never had a child come into my home who isn't loved by the (biological) parents." ....

"There are no guarantees that there will be no challenges or heartache," Jennifer says. "There is a high likelihood of these children requiring special care."

Although mental illness may be a reality, "where we start in life is not where we are destined to finish."

When a child acts out, Jennifer observes, "it's not the 'what' but the 'why'. I don't think children just decide to do something wrong, but it sometimes takes a long time to figure out why."

Peter notes the lack of a father figure in many households from which children go into foster care. "Sometimes you have to go real slow, to validate your presence," he says. "Why are you still here?" is not an uncommon question for kids who are accustomed to seeing men come and go at home.

Jennifer is a former high school teacher who now teaches parenting classes to would-be adoptive parents.

Posted Monday March 24, 2008 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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Compelled Political Views
by Sandi
Post Source: Townhall.com

Back in 1943 the US Supreme Court ruled 8-1 in West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette that the school district violated the rights of students by forcing them to salute the American flag.

If there is any fixed star in our constitutional constellation, it is that no official, high or petty, can prescribe what shall be orthodox in politics, nationalism, religion, or other matters of opinion or force citizens to confess by word or act their faith therein. If there are any circumstances which permit an exception, they do not now occur to us.

We think the action of the local authorities in compelling the flag salute and pledge transcends constitutional limitations on their power and invades the sphere of intellect and spirit which it is the purpose of the First Amendment to our Constitution to reserve from all official control.

George Will in his Sunday column shows us several examples of teachers at universities across the nation that not only routinely ignore the first amendment, but penalize students who do not hold to the liberal views of the teacher with failing grades.

In 2005, Emily Brooker, a social work student at Missouri State University, was enrolled in a class taught by a professor who advertised himself as a liberal and insisted that social work is a liberal profession. At first, a mandatory assignment for his class was to advocate homosexual foster homes and adoption, with all students required to sign an advocacy letter, on university stationery, to the state Legislature.

When Brooker objected on religious grounds, the project was made optional. But shortly before the final exam she was charged with a "Level 3," the most serious, violation of professional standards. In a two-and-a-half-hour hearing -- which she was forbidden to record and her parents were barred from attending -- the primary subject was her refusal to sign the letter. She was ordered to write a paper ("Written Response about My Awareness") explaining how she could "lessen the gap" between her ethics and those of the social work profession. When she sued the university, it dropped the charges and made financial and other restitution.

It just so happens that I disagree with Brooker's philosophy on gays, but her stance is legal and valid on religious, personal or any other grounds. Nor is it necessarily bigotry, although it may be. But even if it were bigotry, in this country we cannot punish people for their views or beliefs. The real bigotry is the progressive left believing that what students think should not only be controlled, but enforced.

I think the mindset that holds this extreme left view is summed up in a comment at Dean's World this morning by Brian Tiemann:

But there's a big difference between people who believe that a nation's population ought to be all dedicated to a common cause in order to be a part of it—"Love it or leave it"—and people who believe that a "nation" consists solely of a set of arbitrary borders and the people that happen to be born inside them.

It's the latter model that says "diversity" is the most commendable thing in a nation, that there should be multiculturalism rather than a "melting pot", and that nationalism is an embarrassing relic of the past. A world built of this model ends up being homogenous, an endless litany of dysfunctional parliamentary democracies with state-funded health care and human-rights guarantees that are hardly worth the paper they're "granted" on. It's mediocre, but at least it's something everyone is too apathetic to be dissatisfied with.

But for those who believe in the former model, where the pull of the Constitution is in and of itself enough to make you want to change your nationality, there's something better to aspire to. It's not perfection, it can be destructive, but it's a belief that humanity can do better than the status quo.


Posted Tuesday October 16, 2007 | Catagory: (Education, Social Issues) | Permalink
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What's In A Kiss?
by Sandi
Source: BBC News

That depends on whether your a man or a woman.

A New York State University team quizzed over 1,000 students, finding women place a big emphasis on kissing.

They use kissing as a way of assessing the recipient as a potential partner, and later to maintain intimacy and to check the status of a relationship.

But men placed less importance on it, using it to increase the likelihood of sex, Evolutionary Psychology reported.

No real surprise there.

H/T Owen at Boots & Sabers

Posted Tuesday September 4, 2007 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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Uninsured Americans 47 Million: Fact or Fiction?
by Sandi

President Bush, Presidential candidates, governors and members of both parties repeat the same old story, that 47 million Americans are uninsured. The media repeat the numbers without question. We here them thrown around so much that most of us buy into it as fact, without knowing what is behind the underlying data.

The figures come from the Census Bureau report: "Income, Poverty, and Health Insurance Coverage in the United States: 2005" (pdf). It puts the initial number people living in the United States that are uninsured at 46.577 million. Yet much of these statistics are not static because other government statistics show that 45 percent of these are job transients and will have insurance again within 4 months.

According to the Business & Media Institute there is a lot more behind the numbers that isn't all that it seems, even if we disregard the short-term job transients in the uninsured numbers.

A closer look at that report reveals the Census data include 9.487 million people who are “not a citizen.” Subtracting the 10 million non-Americans, the number of uninsured Americans falls to roughly 37 million. ...

But according to the same Census report, there are 8.3 million uninsured people who make between $50,000 and $74,999 per year and 8.74 million who make more than $75,000 a year. That’s roughly 17 million people who ought to be able to “afford” health insurance because they make substantially more than the median household income of $46,326. ...

Subtracting non-citizens and those who can afford their own insurance but choose not to purchase it, about 20 million people are left – less than 7 percent of the population.

Other reports take into consideration job transients and the like and produce much lower numbers.

So what is the true extent of the uninsured “crisis?” The Kaiser Family Foundation, a liberal non-profit frequently quoted by the media, puts the number of uninsured Americans who do not qualify for current government programs and make less than $50,000 a year between 13.9 million and 8.2 million. That is a much smaller figure than the media report.

Kaiser’s 8.2 million figure for the chronically uninsured only includes those uninsured for two years or more. It is also worth noting, that, 45 percent of uninsured people will be uninsured for less than four months according to the Congressional Budget Office.

The national health care cause is furthered because politicians, the media and the rest of us don't question these figures. As my grandma used to say: "Figures don't lie, but liars figure."

Posted Monday August 27, 2007 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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MoM Charged With Deaths of Children Left In Car
by Sandi
Source CNN

In my opinion this story below happened, at least in part, because today's society is much more individualistic than decades past. Promoting independence, individual achievement, self-expression and personal choice. People no longer have interdependence on one another as it was when I grew up in the 50s.

Sametta Heyward was in a bind. The single mother was scheduled to start a double shift at 3 p.m., and her baby sitter had just canceled.

"She was either told to come to work or be fired, or she was afraid to call in sick -- one of those things," said police Lt. Michael Fowler.

She made it to her job at a county-run group home July 29, a typically warm summer day. After eight hours, she called a supervisor and said she had to leave because of child-care issues.

According to her employer, she didn't tell the supervisor or a co-worker that for all that time, she had left her 1-year-old daughter and 4-year-old son in her Chevy Cavalier hatchback, parked on a residential street.

She had left Triniti and Shawn with battery-powered fans, food and drinks, but it was not nearly enough to combat the sweltering conditions inside. She later told relatives that when she got to the car at 11:30 p.m., the children were unconscious and had weak pulses. ...

Heyward, 27, was charged with two counts of homicide by child abuse. A funeral for the children was held Saturday.


Too sad a story, and Sametta Heyward is a despicable negligent woman. The worst part is that in spite of Sametta Heyward's being irresponsible leaving the children in the hot car, they were still alive when she returned. Yet instead of getting immediate help, she tried to hide her negligence, costing the children their lives.

When I grew up we adhered to social norms: like respect for authority and our elders, group consensus (what society thought mattered). We had stable hierarchical roles dependent on age and gender, we shared more, both physical property as well as on an emotional level. And I think we had a lot more success at finding happiness. At least I did.

Society needs to strike a balance between Individualism and Collectivism. Otherwise too much Individualism weakens moral bonds, and preserves a welfare state, cultivating a social environment where stories like this one will be often be the result.
Posted Sunday August 5, 2007 | Catagory: (Crime, Social Issues) | Permalink
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Life online invades real life
by Ed
Some of you may remember an earlier entry I made regarding our online lives and the friends we make (what happens when a forum dies?). I am now faced with making a related post that I really don't want to make, and coincidentally it is tied to the same forum that prompted the last one.

Some time in early February, a post was made on the forum of our local newspaper that asked what we should "do" with sexual predators and the like. Most people with children, like myself, extolled the virtues of dismemberment with a toenail clipper, or some other form of slow, agonizing death. All agreed that these are the lowest forms of humanoid life on the planet. The thread continued for days and stretched out to five or six pages.

None of us, at the time, realized that one of our most vocal friends on this forum was strangely silent. There was an arrest here in Salt Lake City. A teacher, first grade. Parents of more than 10 children have now come forth. As more details of the monster came out, more and more of them lined up perfectly with our absent friend (who, like most, used a "handle" or nickname), including his last posts (and last time online) being shortly before the arrest. Additionally, there was the first-grade teacher thing, where he was from, where he served his Mormon "mission." The fact that he had no children. Many more. Everything lined up, and as more facts about this animal came out, not one of them could exonerate our anonymous associate. One of the friendliest, most straightforward and trustworthy people on the forum appeared most undeniably to be a child molester.

It has been several weeks. He has not returned to the forum. The person we believe him to be sits in jail, unable to post the half million dollar bond. The one pervading thought in my mind is that if we, as adults, were duped for two years, how do our children stand a chance?

On the other hand, the timing may not be coincidental. Shortly before he was caught, he made cryptic reference to some "big changes" coming in his life, and that everything was going to change forever. Did we guilt him into getting caught on purpose? We may never know, but I take some small comfort in the possibility that our discussion may have spared some precious innocents the lifetime of agony.
Posted Monday March 26, 2007 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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So goes the The Sentinel of Liberty…Captain America…so goes the country!
by Galt


Captain America represented the pinnacle of human physical perfection. While not superhuman, he was as strong as a human being can be mentality and physically.

Captain America had agility, strength, speed, endurance, and reaction time superior to any Olympic athlete who ever competed. The Super-Soldier formula (Steroids today) that he had metabolized has enhanced all of his bodily functions to the peak of human efficiency. Notably, his body eliminates the excessive build-up of fatigue-producing poisons in his muscles, granting him phenomenal endurance.

Captain America had mastered the martial art of American-style boxing and judo, and has combined these disciplines with his own unique hand-to-hand style of combat. He engaged in a daily regimen of rigorous exercise (including aerobics, weight lifting, gymnastics, and simulated combat) to keep himself in peek condition.
Captain America's only weapon is his shield, a concave disk 2.5 feet in diameter, weighing 12 pounds. It is made of a unique alloy that has never been duplicated.

Captain Americas name was Steve Rogers, born during the Depression and grew up a frail youth in a poor family. His father died when he was a child, his mother when he was in his late teens. Horrified by newsreel footage of the Nazis in Europe, Rogers was inspired to try to enlist in the Army in 1941. However, because of his frailty and sickness, he was rejected. Overhearing the boy's earnest plea to be accepted, A General of the U.S. Army offered Rogers the opportunity to take part in a special experiment called Operation: Rebirth. Rogers agreed and was taken to a secret laboratory in Washington, D.C. where he was introduced to the creator of the Super-Soldier formula.

During the war, he served as both a symbol of freedom and America's most effective special operative. Then, during the final days of the war, he was trying to stop a bomb-loaded drone-plane that was launched when the plane exploded, and threw him unhurt into icy Arctic waters. The Super-Soldier formula prevented crystallization of Captain America's bodily fluid, allowing him to enter a state of suspended animation.

Decades later, he was rescued by newly-formed superheroes and became a cornerstone of the team. His might un-diminished. Captain America remained a The Sentinel of Liberty and justice.

He was revered by other crime-fighters worldwide. But the beloved, shield-carrying superhero, Captain America, one of the finest human combatants Earth has ever known has been assassinated in the aftermath of a civil war, which divided superheroes as the government ordered them to reveal their true identities and register with authorities.

This caused a major rift between superheroes and the Government and resulted in Captain America going underground and forming a resistance movement.

In the end, however, Captain America was forced to surrender to the Government pro-registration forces – but was shot dead by a sniper, on the steps of New York's Federal Courthouse on his way to face charges.



But of course Captain America is a costume, just a Comic Book Character, and his death similar to the death of Superman in 1993, when the leading superhero of Marvel rival D.C. Comics was killed off after about 55 years.

Captain America's assassination secret comes in the aftermath of a seven-issue mini-series. Gerry Gladston, co-owner of Midtown Comics in Manhattan, said Captain America's assassination – and the fact it had remained such a secret, even to some Marvel staff – was "pretty Earth-shattering" and had sent sales soaring already.
The sad fact, was the fans of Captain America, found out about it before the publication ever hit the newsstands as the “spoiler’ was revealed on Yahoo some two weeks prior.

His demise is a blow to one of the men who created him; Joe Simon. "We really need him now." said Simon, 93, who worked with artist Jack Kirby to devise Captain America as a foe for Adolf Hitler. When a country chooses the wrong philosophical guide, you get the spectacle of it going all the way back to 1941 up to the present.



In 2002, Marvel responded to the horrors of 9/11 with Captain America: The New Deal, a series featuring a Islamic Terrorist named Al-Tariq who’s determined to punish the U.S. for its reckless misdeeds. After taking hostages in a small town with a defense plant, the militant addresses Captain America through loudspeakers, demanding: “Tell our children then, American — Who sowed death in their field — and left it for the innocent to harvest?
No one in this comic, neither Captain America nor any of the hostages, ever offers a word of rebuttal to the pro-Islamic terrorist tirade.

In the next installment Al-Tariq insists: “I am not a Islamic terrorist. I am a messenger-here to show you the truth of war. YOU ARE THE TERRORISTS!” Later, Captain America seizes an ID device from around his enemy’s neck — a “CATtag” used by U.S. intelligence. He later confronts the secretary of defense by declaring: “You tried to hang one of these around my neck...The Islamic terrorists I fought in Centerville all wore them — these CATtags.” In other words, Marvel Comics recycled a notion that’s been lovingly nurtured by anti-American conspiracy theorists of all stripes: that our own intelligence establishment somehow orchestrated bloody terrorist attacks against U.S. civilians.

This idea of America the Guilty permeates other additions to the series in which Captain America visits Dresden to receive a history lesson on American war guilt — for World War II! The broad-shouldered hero goes through a searing reverie about America’s controversial fire-bombing of the city in 1945: “You didn’t understand what we’d done here — until September the 11th,” he tells himself. “These people weren’t soldiers. They huddled in the dark. Trapped...And while there was nothing left to breathe there in the dark, they died... History repeats itself like a machine gun.”

Captain America’s post-9/11 understanding of the destruction of Dresden suggested a moral equivalence between the Allied forces in World War II (in the midst of a bloody, all-out global war) and the Islamic terrorists who randomly attacked unsuspecting office workers. Especially in a comic book aimed largely at children and teenagers the comparison (in the hero’s own voice) is both irrational and obscene.

The indictment of the United States becomes even more explicit in a later issue in which Captain America listens to yet another sympathetic rant from a Islamic terrorist mastermind. “Guerrillas gunned my father down while he was at work in the fields — With American bullets,” the militant helpfully explains. “You know your history, Captain America...You played that game in too many places... The sun never set on your political chessboard- your empire of blood.”

To this verbal assault, The Sentinel of Liberty responded meekly, “We’ve changed. We’ve learned...My people never knew. We know now. And those days are over.”

We might expect such blame-America logic from Hollywood activists, academic apologists, or the angry protesters who regularly fill the streets of European capitals (and many major American cities). When such sentiments turned up, however, hidden within star-spangled, comic books aimed at kids, it's more than irrational and obscene.

Now of course The Sentinel of Liberty Captain America is dead. Is there any hope that he might still be alive, perhaps whisked off to some secret location, and nurtured back to health both mentally and physically, with a revival of his original philosophy of reason, truth, freedom, and justice?

I’ve watched the demise of the country through the minds of the writers of Captain America, over the years, and I don’t know…. I hope it…but I doubt it. Like a few lines from Shelleys poem Ozymandias perhaps the country will inevitably share his fate of oblivion in the sands of time.

Half sunk, a shattered visage lies, whose frown,
And wrinkled lip, and sneer of cold command,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these lifeless things,
The hand that mocked them and the heart that fed.
And on the pedestal these words appear —
"My name is Ozymandias, king of kings:
Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair!"
Nothing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.



As Joe Simon his creator said, "We really need him now." Not what the writers later created, but what he once was.

Posted Saturday March 10, 2007 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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Pakistani Women’s Protection Act
by Sandi
General Pervez Musharraf, President of Pakistan needs to be pressured from within and outside of Pakistan into acting in favor of the Women’s Protection Act. Read about it on Ali Eteraz's blog. Then use the link he provides to Musharraf's website to drop him an email. Please write cordial and inteligently

Via Dean

Posted Saturday September 16, 2006 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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The Waiter Rule Tells Your Character
by Sandi
Source Yahoo News

We have all seen people who are rude to waiters, maids, clerks, security guards and bellhop etc. Even without being rude how you treat these service people can predict a lot about your character according to many CEOs.

"Watch out for people who have a situational value system, who can turn the charm on and off depending on the status of the person they are interacting with," Swanson writes. "Be especially wary of those who are rude to people perceived to be in subordinate roles."

The Waiter Rule also applies to the way people treat hotel maids, mailroom clerks, bellmen and security guards. Au Bon Pain co-founder Ron Shaich, now CEO of Panera Bread, says he was interviewing a candidate for general counsel in St. Louis. She was "sweet" to Shaich but turned "amazingly rude" to someone cleaning the tables, Shaich says. She didn't get the job.

Shaich says any time candidates are being considered for executive positions at Panera Bread, he asks his assistant, Laura Parisi, how they treated her, because some applicants are "pushy, self-absorbed and rude" to her before she transfers the call to him...

Such behavior is an accurate predictor of character because it isn't easily learned or unlearned but rather speaks to how people were raised, says Siki Giunta, CEO of U.S. technology company Managed Objects, a native of Rome who once worked as a London bartender.

More recently, she had a boss who would not speak directly to the waiter but would tell his assistant what he wanted to eat, and the assistant would tell the waiter in a comical three-way display of pomposity. What did Giunta learn about his character? "That he was demanding and could not function well without a lot of hand-holding from his support system," she said.

Service people may not have a fancy title (yet), but they are often young and working through college or just looking for their direction in life. Many have the intelligence and ability future business owners, executives and CEOs.

h/t to Owen at Boots & Sabers.
Posted Monday April 17, 2006 | Catagory: (Social Issues) | Permalink
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